CrazyDates Advice:

Is It Ok To Hug On The First Date?

Ending a first or second date with a hug can be a great choice due to its neutral nature, allowing for various interpretations. It can be a friendly gesture or carry more romantic implications, depending on how both individuals feel. The way a woman responds to a hug can provide valuable feedback about her interest and whether further pursuit is appropriate.

As the date nears its end, both parties are aware of the impending conclusion and may be contemplating how to wrap things up. So, as arrive at her place in your car, or when you are about to part on the street, pay attention to her behavior. If she appears uncomfortable or fidgety, she may prefer a quick goodbye. Conversely, if she has had a wonderful time and doesn't want the date to end, it will be evident.

Consider stopping the car near her place and warmly asking, "Would you like me to walk you to the door?" Let her decide.

If she says yes, accompany her to the door, smile, and ask if you can give her a hug goodbye. This moment allows her to initiate a kiss if she desires, without feeling pressured.

If she declines your offer to walk her to the door, respond with a warm look and say, "May I open the car door for you?" Again, let her decide if that is appropriate.

If she agrees, exit the car and open the door for her. As she steps out, express gratitude for spending time together and convey your enjoyment of the date while giving her a nonsexual hug.

If she refuses your offer to open the car door, saying she can handle it herself, maintain a warm expression and say, "Thank you for spending time with me today. I really enjoyed it." Lean over and offer a nonsexual hug.

Her response to these gestures will indicate her level of enjoyment and potential romantic interest. If she had a good time, it will be evident, and she may seek physical contact through a hug or a kiss.

This approach works well because it alleviates pressure for both individuals. It acknowledges the possibility of developing a friendship and allows for a positive parting experience.

If she didn't have a good time, she will likely avoid physical contact. It's better to avoid setting yourself up for rejection by asking for a hug or a kiss if the date didn't go well.

In conclusion, ending the first few dates with a hug is a good approach. It empowers her to determine the extent of the hug and whether a kiss is appropriate. Kissing on the cheek is acceptable, but not on the lips unless she initiates it. By giving her the freedom to decide, you demonstrate respect and gentlemanly behavior.

So, to answer your question, yes, it is absolutely acceptable to initiate the hug yourself.

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