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I Bailed On Mr. Mansplainer…
As I sat across from him at the restaurant, I could feel myself getting more and more frustrated. We had only been on three dates, but I was already starting to see a pattern. Every time I tried to share my thoughts or opinions, he would interrupt me and talk over me. It was like he couldn't stand the thought of a woman having a valid point of view or having ever experienced anything.
At first, I tried to ignore it. Maybe it was just nerves or an awkward social habit. But as the night wore on, it became clear that this was just who he was. He would explain things to me as if I were a child, even though I had a degree in the same field as him. He would make assumptions about my knowledge and experience, without even bothering to ask.
By the end of the evening, I was seething with anger. When he asked if I wanted to go out again, I knew I had to be honest. "I don't think we should see each other anymore," I said firmly. "You have a habit of mansplaining, and it's really not something I can tolerate."
He looked at me in confusion, as if he had never heard the term before. I explained what it meant, but I could tell that he didn't really understand. He tried to apologize, but it was too little, too late. I knew that I couldn't be with someone who didn't respect me enough to listen to what I had to say.
In the weeks that followed, I felt a sense of relief. It was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I realized that I didn't have to put up with mansplaining or any other kind of disrespect. I deserved someone who would listen to me and value my opinions, even if they didn't always agree with them.
Looking back, I'm grateful that we broke up when we did. It might have been painful at the time, but it taught me a valuable lesson about self-respect and setting boundaries. And who knows? Maybe Mr. Mansplainer learned something too.
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Mindy Says:
This is a great story. We've all met mansplainers and, my goodness, they are tiering. I once had to sit beside one on a 3 hour bus trip and he was such a mansplainer that when I told him he was one, he went on to tell me what it meant to be a mansplainer and that most women really are naïve and need a man to explain things.
Charles Says:
You do know that if a man knows more than a woman on a specific topic than his girlfriend that it would be a mistake not to help her understand everything that she should know. Too many men just let women be ignorant about things because they don't want to be a "Mansplainer", but it really is for the good of everyone to have things explained properly.
Ruth Says:
When it comes to dealing with mansplainers, sometimes you just have to show 'em who's boss and make a clean break. This story is a true testament to the power of self-assurance and not putting up with any nonsense. Kudos to the badass who walked away from Mr. Mansplainer with a confident stride and a dusting of empowerment in her wake.
Claud Says:
I realize that you had a bad experience but I believe that you might be more openminded about listening to other people's thoughts. Many people have vast experiences on all sorts of topics and you may find that you have learned something from listening. I also think you are being extremally sexist by this "Mansplaining " term.
Neal Says:
I agree with Claud that you are being close minded and sexist. If it was a woman who was helping to enlighten you on those things you would have just sat there and been polite. You know that opposite of a mansplainer is typically a "Karen".
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